tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post2349245527737964656..comments2023-11-05T09:53:20.998+00:00Comments on A Kind Dom: unfaithful - 3. Is polyamory a solution?Pygarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-23205217525810809892015-11-09T21:00:14.899+00:002015-11-09T21:00:14.899+00:00Thanks Lea.
Yes I do agree that both parties have...Thanks Lea.<br /><br />Yes I do agree that both parties have to be fully on board.<br /><br />I guess it works best when both partners feel fully involved - indeed when it stops being "both" but a group perhaps. Like you I wonder if it would work where one partner was polyamorous but the other monogamous. That sounds like a whole different kind of relationship.<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-46885718055243379002015-11-09T01:37:00.797+00:002015-11-09T01:37:00.797+00:00I think, like some other commenters, that it can o...I think, like some other commenters, that it can only work if both people are on board. If one person is already cheating, and the other is faithful, I don't believe polyamoury will work; it's more an excuse. Both parties must agree to that and want it wholeheartedly. It really depends on the couple though; I suppose there are those that would be okay being monogamous while the partner is polyamorous. Its hard for me to wrap my brain around personally though.Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17213567388808206135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-32009877817324949652015-09-08T16:38:22.226+01:002015-09-08T16:38:22.226+01:00I have no answers for you, but it is a very intere...I have no answers for you, but it is a very interesting topic! Thanks for sharing the article.Mistyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07931554793023459482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-18109934074979022712015-09-08T10:18:55.509+01:002015-09-08T10:18:55.509+01:00Readers who want to read further on the subject of...Readers who want to read further on the subject of polyamory may find <a href="http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/apr/25/polyamory-more-than-one-lover-emer-otoole" rel="nofollow">this article</a> interesting.<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-51163395075442717462015-09-08T10:16:16.525+01:002015-09-08T10:16:16.525+01:00I have been thinking of this in my own situation. ...I have been thinking of this in my own situation. My sub Inès is very into other women. I feel she needs a female partner as well as me to be completely fulfilled. I also think that it would be good for her to explore her dominant characteristics in a bdsm context which would need another partner as I do not switch. Perhaps we should be looking more seriously!<br /><br />I wonder if this is more common in the bdsm world - to seek out further partners to extend one's range of experience that may not be possible with one partner?<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-59656088365041963032015-09-04T12:11:11.335+01:002015-09-04T12:11:11.335+01:00Thanks tori. I do agree and the point of poly sure...Thanks tori. I do agree and the point of poly surely is to avoid the "cheating". It is asking the question of whether if one is honest about having other needs or desires or just wanting a broader set of experiences then having open relationships with others may be a possible solution. <br /><br />Part of my question I suppose is how well this can be made to work. I wonder too if in the bdsm world there may be a greater desire for it - or perhaps the honesty and trust necessary in bdsm makes it more of a possibility rather than less.<br /><br />As you say, "<i>however it is done, their needs to be honesty, without it the relationship is based on deceit and I cannot see that as being healthy.</i>" Trust and honesty is so essential to a bdsm relationship. If that is also built into the poly aspect then does that make it more likely to be a successful prospect?<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-63016358159439700672015-09-04T11:48:31.956+01:002015-09-04T11:48:31.956+01:00I think poly is a soloution if all are on board, I...I think poly is a soloution if all are on board, I don't believe that we will get everything we want from one person, but it's recognising what is important, and that one cannot do without, and if that person is not compatible with that need/want then is it worth pursuing a relationship with that person.<br /><br />I was in a marriage (vanilla) that did not provide me with what I needed, that being M/s and kink, so I chose to leave the marriage (amongst other reasons) cheating was not an option, it's not something I think imo can be justified.<br /><br />My first dom was married, his wife not having any knowledge of what he was up to, and I couldn't handle that, how could I trust someone that was being unfaithful to his wife? so it came to an end.<br /><br />However if the situation was such that his wife knew and was ok with it, I would have been ok with it, and for many situations that works for people.<br /><br />But however it is done, their needs to be honesty, without it the relationship is based on deceit and I cannot see that as being healthy.<br /><br />torihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-729620525838034612015-09-03T23:48:35.716+01:002015-09-03T23:48:35.716+01:00Thanks very much Misty
As always - "... it j...Thanks very much Misty<br /><br />As always - <i>"... it just depends ..."</i>!<br /><br />Yes, and on what ones needs are - and desires also. The thought of it can be very exciting but when it develops into real other relationships I guess that is where the serious stuff starts.<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-43769046587360306092015-09-03T23:03:45.178+01:002015-09-03T23:03:45.178+01:00Hummmm...well...I think we are all different and t...Hummmm...well...I think we are all different and thus we will vary in opinions.<br /><br />For myself, I wasn't fulfilled until he found me fourteen years ago. Before him, I cheated and didn't stay with one person for very long (yeah, I had issues...still do. Lol). I don't long to be with anyone else, but the idea of having someone else join us is very exciting. Also, if he wanted someone else (as long as he wasn't replacing me!!!) I *think* we could make that work--keeping in mind, if this became a reality I might change my mind. Lol. <br /><br />So, I guess, it just depends on who you are, what kind of relationship you're in, and where you are at within that relationship...Mistyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07931554793023459482noreply@blogger.com