tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post2522700198334936055..comments2023-11-05T09:53:20.998+00:00Comments on A Kind Dom: still wanting morePygarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-62447551451910616442016-05-01T15:59:39.744+01:002016-05-01T15:59:39.744+01:00Another interesting analysis of Janet's situat...Another interesting analysis of Janet's situation has been added to the <i>Uncle Agony</i> blog <a href="http://uncle-agony.blogspot.co.uk/2016/04/so-lost.html?showComment=1462087563040#c7223998750620126867" rel="nofollow">here</a>.<br /><br />PPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-15231785782806029532016-04-24T16:46:59.980+01:002016-04-24T16:46:59.980+01:00Thanks Loki.
Yes she did go with others without h...Thanks Loki.<br /><br />Yes she did go with others without her boyfriend's knowledge and also was not open with him about it straight away. So as you say she clearly was cheating on him at the start. Naturally when anyone has been cheated in this way they are going to feel upset and hurt. Trust within the relationship is going to be hard to rebuild following such occurrences.<br /><br />I suppose though from her perspective the events did trigger the realisation in her that she needed more than her boyfriend could give her and indeed that one relationship, however fulfilling in itself, was not enough for her. She has then been trying to come to terms with where to go from there.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your own experience and perspective as someone who has been involved in polysexual and monosexual relationships. You can see the dynamic from both sides. However you do make it clear that for you a mono relationship can be fulfilling in a way that gives you no need to find another. If I understand you correctly you go on to argue that being unable to find fulfillment with a single partner implies an emotional detachment and a fear of being alone.<br /><br />I wonder if others agree with you on that point. It would be interesting to hear.<br /><br />I suppose it gets to the heart of the question I am asking - whether there are some who need more than one lover to be completely fulfilled. You seem to be arguing that should not be the case. It also perhaps raises the issue of polyamory as opposed to polysexuality. I wonder if you feel there is an issue in general with polyamorous relationships?<br /><br />Thanks for your interesting thoughts on this complex subject.<br /><br />P xx <br />Pygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-71449008675770797892016-04-24T02:25:54.478+01:002016-04-24T02:25:54.478+01:00So, I've sort of been on the recieving end of ...So, I've sort of been on the recieving end of this. My last ex, would constantly hide his time with others, and then claim it was necessary for him. He would in the meantime treat me like garbage, and constantly lie to me. We consistently defined cheating as anything you feel as though you need to keep a secret, and all of that definitely qualified, as did the writer of that message. She was very blatently cheating, and disregarding the trust in her relationship, regardless of what else was going on.<br /><br />As for the ability to be fulfilled while in any form of poly dynamic, I've been polysexual for a long time. I've had bouts of monosexuality due to the needs of my partner, and I've had them simply because I did feel fulfilled with who I was with. I'm at a point in my life where if I'm going to have a partner, I want them to be close, and fulfilling, and more than just someone to bone or play with. It doesn't matter if they're just a friend, or become a serious relationship. I feel fulfilled, and don't go actively hunting for more because they don't make me happy. Being unable to find happiness or fulfillment in the person you're with means you're emotionally detached from that person, but stay with them because you're afraid to be alone, or just don't want to adjust to them being there.<br /><br />And, yes, I'm speaking in a lot of definites, but track records, and plenty of other people would agree that it's true. Loki Tavielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15129650045289375076noreply@blogger.com