tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post3149868980900540114..comments2023-11-05T09:53:20.998+00:00Comments on A Kind Dom: shamePygarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-74532045303614228212014-06-26T20:22:05.590+01:002014-06-26T20:22:05.590+01:00Readers may be interested in a continuation of thi...Readers may be interested in a continuation of this discussion on new post, <a href="http://xpygarx.blogspot.co.uk/2014/06/revisiting-shame.html" rel="nofollow">revisiting "shame"</a>.<br /><br />- PPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-17174341618205968992014-02-06T21:39:44.874+00:002014-02-06T21:39:44.874+00:00Yes Anna May, there always seem to be "buts&q...Yes Anna May, there always seem to be "buts"!<br /><br />It is interesting though in relation to previous discussions that you can feel humiliated and degraded but that has no connection with shame.<br /><br />The other shame you go on to talk about seems of a different degree. I think I can understand that you were beyond shame because of the levels of trust that you had built up. However once the trust and respect was lost I can recognise how the shame poured back in as part of the grieving process. <br /><br />I do hope you have managed to move on from this now in positive ways. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences.<br /><br />Best wishes<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-87137691836443995682014-02-06T21:33:19.521+00:002014-02-06T21:33:19.521+00:00Thanks mc kitten. It is interesting that although ...Thanks mc kitten. It is interesting that although you have moved past a lot of shame there are still some things where you retain shame. But if the humiliation of that turns you on then it sounds like win-win!<br /><br />Good luck<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-3155884625976287512014-02-06T16:30:41.031+00:002014-02-06T16:30:41.031+00:00I can't say I have felt shame during any scene... I can't say I have felt shame during any scene I have been in, not even after words. I feel humiliated/degraded in a scene but never the feeling of shame. But ( i love buts) after my first Dom and I parted ways there was a wave of shame that overcame me, almost took me over. I even wrote a poem to express the shame I felt with in the D/s experience. I feel guilt and shame entwine together. My guilt lied in trusting someone to soon to allow him to do things to me that in reality are downright shameful, because I wanted it. But I also wanted the person whom I was allowing to do such things to me to respect me enough to honor who I was outside of the D/s scene. So in short the shame came after I felt the respect for me was lost, and I felt guilty for allowing it. Anna Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03831125421720546798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-90655739110168507752014-02-06T14:41:24.525+00:002014-02-06T14:41:24.525+00:00both. shame is something I've moved past a lot...both. shame is something I've moved past a lot because I want to be able to lots of fun stuff, for example, sprawl around naked in front of him for his/our delight and titillation.<br /><br />At the same time, there are going to be certain things where it's pretty impossible to completely eliminate any reaction of shame, as it's such a integral and basic human reaction with us being social animals... And it's then that it can tie up with humiliation and be such a turn on.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03012486777344302375noreply@blogger.com