tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post7651812154164032615..comments2023-11-05T09:53:20.998+00:00Comments on A Kind Dom: new to all thisPygarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-91822074228004956082012-11-22T20:55:13.967+00:002012-11-22T20:55:13.967+00:00Thank you Kitty. I am sorry I have taken so long t...Thank you Kitty. I am sorry I have taken so long to respond to your very interesting comment. I think I may use it as the topic for a future post where I can perhaps respond in more detail.<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-80288084980538480332012-11-13T14:33:14.716+00:002012-11-13T14:33:14.716+00:00I'm a little late to this post as I am new to ...I'm a little late to this post as I am new to your blog, but I can very much relate to this post. As a new sub, I struggle a lot with knowing what my true limits are and when to use my safeword. One side of me thinks, this is not just for him, but for both of us. And, like a previous poster said, if its not fun, it should stop. Another side of me thinks, if I only do things that are fun for me where is the submission in that? If I dont push my limits, how do I grow? Its a delicate balance, I believe. Sir has been amazing in helping me find it. Kitty for Mr. Woodshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16520304238179570249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-41643125692981344492012-10-10T17:50:54.167+01:002012-10-10T17:50:54.167+01:00Yes Wilbur - a safe word can be an important part ...Yes Wilbur - a safe word can be an important part of feeling safe. Also important is the confidence to use it and to know when that is appropriate. That too needs discussing as part of the development of trust.<br /><br />- PPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-75727961506904615022012-10-10T01:20:52.962+01:002012-10-10T01:20:52.962+01:00Always have a safe word and use it when it no long...Always have a safe word and use it when it no longer feels delicious or fun, or appropriate, or whatever boundaries make sense in your own head.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.firstclassfoodsinc.bravesites.com/" rel="nofollow">FirstClass Foods Inc</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12365730191384709580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-65612093074116330572012-10-02T10:49:01.998+01:002012-10-02T10:49:01.998+01:00Welcome back Des!
I have fond memories of a delig...Welcome back Des!<br /><br />I have fond memories of a delightful game of strip scrabble ...<br /><br />;)<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-91684157297138450052012-10-01T20:21:23.414+01:002012-10-01T20:21:23.414+01:00Yes it is me in the flesh er well virtually in the...Yes it is me in the flesh er well virtually in the flesh that is. Glad to be back and to discover you here. :) Desireoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05378698039586656217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-37376342793423805032012-09-30T16:01:11.166+01:002012-09-30T16:01:11.166+01:00Welcome Ddesirous - especially if you happen to be...Welcome Ddesirous - especially if you happen to be the Desirous who used to visit Beau's blog some years ago.<br /><br />I am pleased you eventually managed to escape from abusive relationships and to discover a true D/s relationship. <br /><br />It seems very sad though if, as you say, that abuse is a price some subs have to pay.<br /><br />Thanks for your openness and your thoughtful comment- and for your kind words.<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-86512608247539093502012-09-30T15:57:59.917+01:002012-09-30T15:57:59.917+01:00Thank you Maryann for your kind words about the bl...Thank you Maryann for your kind words about the blog.<br /><br />You are of course right that consent is at the heart of this. I suppose though I am trying to delve a bit deeper in that with little knowledge a someone might not know what was and wasn't appropriate to accept. Surely consent requires a certain level of knowledge and understanding?<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-57401627885079943692012-09-29T00:43:11.199+01:002012-09-29T00:43:11.199+01:00Long before I ever discovered my own submissive te...Long before I ever discovered my own submissive tendencies I found myself in one abusive relationship after another. I didn't understand why until the day I met a natural dominant who didn't know he was a Dom any more than I knew I was a sub and together we learned about who we are. Abuse is the price many subs pay unfortunately and there is little I suppose that can be done about it. Great post. Thanks for writing it!Desireoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05378698039586656217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-60100652132348335202012-09-21T21:14:44.890+01:002012-09-21T21:14:44.890+01:00Dear Pygar,
Yes, healthy warnings are good! The b...Dear Pygar,<br />Yes, healthy warnings are good! The bottom line is consent. We always, always, always have the option of removing our consent, and whatever it is should end immediately, with no penalties of any kind.... especially emotional! Always have a safe word and use it when it no longer feels delicious or fun, or appropriate, or whatever boundaries make sense in your own head. If we stop a scene with a safe word and then are told we'll get it twice as bad next time, that is not okay. Submission is a gift, and ours to give.<br />Thanks for your wonderful blog, Pygar.<br />MaryannAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-48345066255242481402012-09-19T21:27:04.326+01:002012-09-19T21:27:04.326+01:00Thank you agog. You are right of course that this ...Thank you agog. You are right of course that this isn't exclusive to BDSM. However I worry that within new D/s relationships there is the structure that can almost encourage abuse from selfish or ignorant partners.<br /><br />It must be hard if you have had friends who will not recognise or listen to advice but have to learn from their own mistakes. I guess many of us are like that.<br /><br />However I still worry if in D/s there are 'newbies' who are more susceptible to abuse who might benefit from warnings and help.<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-76098688937866121802012-09-19T00:58:00.286+01:002012-09-19T00:58:00.286+01:00Unfortunately, this isn't exclusive to BDSM. T...Unfortunately, this isn't exclusive to BDSM. The worst part is seeing it happen, knowing the person won't listen...Most people just have to learn on their own.agoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03620077077536411233noreply@blogger.com