tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post8547994215880220895..comments2023-11-05T09:53:20.998+00:00Comments on A Kind Dom: change...Pygarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-28176654941959721162016-10-29T21:26:04.718+01:002016-10-29T21:26:04.718+01:00Thanks SwitchingFun.
You mention the last line of...Thanks SwitchingFun.<br /><br />You mention the last line of defence as the group community. I agree that can be very powerful and supportive. Your point about others noticing first when a line has been crossed is instructive. It is up to us all to feel strong enough to express such feelings even when we know that might not be welcomed.<br /><br />I know that even after several years there are members of our online community who still think kindly and supportively of the person mentioned in my post.<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-29435807919343504402016-10-29T21:20:41.540+01:002016-10-29T21:20:41.540+01:00Thanks Jz
"Sometimes I think that being able...Thanks Jz<br /><br /><i>"Sometimes I think that being able to see the growth that comes from the negatives is the thing that keeps us sane..."</i><br /><br />Quite.<br /><br />But...<br /><br />...well, like you said.<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-69185840047538918192016-10-28T15:52:13.596+01:002016-10-28T15:52:13.596+01:00My best wishes to your blogger friend Pygar. No on...My best wishes to your blogger friend Pygar. No one should ever go through such experience.<br /><br />These kind of facts remind me how a dominant-sadist can easily abuse the trust given. By hiding behind 'pushing the boundaries' or other popular phrases, I sometimes found myself caught in a thin crossing line where risk aware mix with overconfidence plus LOVE lead to 'consensual' abuse and violence. Intentionally or not, once done the damage cannot be reversed.<br /><br />The last line of defense for me is the group community where we share, learn, grow and support each other. It takes others to realize the line has been crossed sometimes ;-).<br />SwitchingFunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12268816386353462631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-50260495441883953252016-10-28T11:39:06.458+01:002016-10-28T11:39:06.458+01:00Sometimes I think that being able to see the growt...Sometimes I think that being able to see the growth that comes from the negatives is the thing that keeps us sane...<br />If getting to the point where we can see it doesn't kill us first, of course.<br /><br />It's so hard to sift through that kind of fallout, isn't it? It takes a great deal of clear-headed honesty with our own selves - to not take up blame that doesn't belong to us or foist off the responsibilities that lay with us... and clear-headedness is not generally the companion state to emotional turmoil.<br /><br />I'm telling you, Pygar, this emotion stuff is for the birds! ;-)Jzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00301793291285112859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-3947179666468410172016-10-27T20:52:17.744+01:002016-10-27T20:52:17.744+01:00I doubt she follows this blog now but if she does ...I doubt she follows this blog now but if she does I am sure she will appreciate your good wishes.<br /><br />Thanks SugarSack<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794291026218471965.post-10468086740295385292016-10-27T20:23:27.734+01:002016-10-27T20:23:27.734+01:00if shes who I think she is... I only knew her thru...if shes who I think she is... I only knew her thru her blog and often find myself wondering about her as well.. hoping she is good SugarSackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16898337816753183995noreply@blogger.com