A sub friend talked to me of an experience she'd had with a sadistic Dom.
The scene was totally consensual - but the boundaries got stretched in ways neither of them had imagined at the start of the session. She was badly beaten. So badly beaten that the Dom felt traumatised that he could have done such a thing to her.
So where did he go for support? To the sub of course. He expected her to support him in coming to terms with what he had done with no thought of the trauma that she had undergone - both physically and emotionally.
Surely his first thought should have been to support her rather than seeking support for himself? Should that not be a duty for a Dom to support his sub when she has been taken to such unplanned and extreme places?
Yet he only thought of himself.
The self-centredness of some Doms never ceases to amaze me.