Is there a competitive element between subs?
Who can take the hardest spanking, the most strokes of the cane, the longest flogging, the heaviest paddle? Do Doms delight in having a sub who can take the most pain and in showing her off? Do Doms encourage it in subs with dismissive remarks such as, "Oh ... you're not a real sub if you don't/can't/won't ... "?
I have come across it in comments on some BDSM networking sites. LM talks of it eloquently in her comment here.
Surely BDSM is not a competitive sport? I certainly believe it should not be.
Have you ever been compared in this way? Encouraged to compete? Felt under pressure as a result of it?
Or do you delight in being the BEST sub ever? But you can't be. Mine is the best. Really!
Sticking point - Mary emailed me again recently. Things seem to be going very well for her but she has a problem. I'll let her explain: I have a question that you and perha...
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