In the comments to a post by Maryann the issue of punishment came up.
"Punishment" often seems wrong to me in a normal context. Except in the context of a consensual D/s relationship.
Rewards actually work better than punishment in training. I don't punish my children. In particular I think any violence towards children is wrong. I think violence towards women is wrong in any setting - let alone a domestic one. Except ...
... in a consensual D/s setting where each is getting pleasure, satisfaction or fulfillment from bdsm play.
So I too have a little problem that I am trying to resolve with "punishment spankings" as opposed to "erotic spankings". In the end though - I think they may be the same but at a different level.
When the consent is withdrawn then it becomes domestic abuse.
However reading the above again I seem confused even to me!
From her blog Maryann's relationship seems to be breaking at the moment. I send her my very best wishes.
Sticking point - Mary emailed me again recently. Things seem to be going very well for her but she has a problem. I'll let her explain: I have a question that you and perha...
2 weeks ago