Monday, 27 September 2010

Is sensuality too vanilla?

I suppose this is linked to my last post but was inspired from a different place. I was commenting on another blog - forgive me I have lost the link now even though it is a rare activity for me! The blogger seemed to have lost her desire for sex though she still craved BDSM activity. Her use of rubber and latex seemed to be almost as much a barrier to prevent skin to skin contact as a sensual fabric in its own right.

In my comment I mentioned the delight of sensual erotic massage. She responded that she did not enjoy that as it was "too vanilla".

I see sensuality as a continuum across BDSM, fetish and vanilla and am happy to embrace all of its aspects. Though what about my readers? Do you find some sensual activity too vanilla to be fun? And where does one draw the line? If I tied her up before the erotic massage would that make it okay?

9 comments:

Azrael Arcángel said...

Maybe it is just that she does not like massage too much. I feel the same about it, but not because it is "too vanilla", but because, well, it is just mildly pleasing to me, and not a big turn on. Rather too passive, I think :)

KellyRed said...

Skin to skin in any form is pleasing to me, instantly revs my engines. Any tactile sensation can be a pleasure, vanilla or not. Start sensually vanilla, work your way up to more extreme pursuits, and for me, pain stays pleasurable to a much higher intensity. Try a combinaton of rough hemp rope, and sensuous massage.

babygirl cricket said...

You bring up an excellent point. Where does one draw the line? Well, why should we draw the line? For can we not enjoy both? Have a nice kinky BDSM Scene, then perhaps a nice massage.., but hey, watch out for the sore bum? Something to ponder for sure. :) But I will say, if one were to tie me up for the massage, that sure would make it more entertaining! Maybe many people see massages as a relaxing, but boring thing to do. I personally, would never pass one up.

Wonderful post, and wonderful subject to ponder!

lu peata said...

Hello Sir

oh i LOVE all kinds of massages whether too vanilla or not..lol..love to receive these in any shape or form, and yes being blindfolded makes it oh so much more pleasing.

xx lu

Pygar said...

Thank you all very much for the comments.

But after,

" ... pain stays pleasurable to a much higher intensity ... a combination of rough hemp rope, and sensuous massage ... if one were to tie me up for the massage ... being blindfolded makes it oh so much more pleasing ..."

- I think I am in danger of getting carried away. So cruel when I am sat here on my own tonight!!!!

xPx

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SubRosaNoMore said...

Sensuality is wonderful in all its forms. I have had the most wonderful shivers to finger nails lightly stroking my body, whether on their own or in between strokes of a crop. I love all forms of tactile stimulation!

Arcane's Angel said...

It is possible as Azrael noted that she doesn't like massage full stop. I know I have such sensitive skin that I find massages painful and never view it as a pleasurable activity for myself.


Still any so called vanilla activity can quickly descend into S/m with an alteration in tone, touch and expectation.

Pygar said...

Thank you SubRosaNoMore and Arcane's Angel.

"... finger nails lightly stroking my body ... in between strokes of a crop ... such sensitive skin ... massages painful ..."

*sighs and tries to get mind back on current task*

I do agree Arcane's Angel that "... any so called vanilla activity can quickly descend into S/m with an alteration in tone, touch and expectation." I think it is that change in tone and touch and the anticipation of it that can be at the heart of the sensuality of BDSM.

xPx