Thursday 20 April 2017

oral and BDSM

In a couple of posts recently on A Kind Dom here and on Uncle Agony here we have been discussing oral sex, whether subs enjoy it or not and how to get over distaste for the activity.

Dani loves it (do read her take on it here!) Abby likes it when she is given permission! Lea and SugarSack don't like it but are trying for their Doms. Mary finds it revolting and is looking for advice on how to cope. And this is within a typical vanilla experience of oral sex.

However, much porn now shows women being forced and choked in oral sex scenes. They are perhaps the most D/s and BDSM oriented scenes in vanilla porn. I wonder if many Doms like to control and perhaps humiliate their subs in this way? Also are there any subs who get off on this kind of activity? Does it give you pride to be able to take it deeply or a strong feeling of submission to be forced in such scenarios?


4 comments:

SugarSack said...

one of my kinks is being forced... forced to do anything really ... I get off on the control of Him forcing me... so in a sense His grabbing my hair and forcing me to "take it all" during oral is a turn on even as much as its a slight humiliation..

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Pygar said...

Thank you SugarSack. I think it can be for many submissives.

I wonder if this might provide an alternative answer to the one we were trying to give to Mary in the Uncle Agony post here. Rather than looking for ways to make oral sex acceptable when she finds it unpleasant, perhaps she needs to be concentrating on the fact that doing something she may hate for his pleasure should make her feel all the more submissive. To a certain extent that is the case with Inès and myself.

P xx

Tamar said...

Heh, you've hit upon one of my dom's new fetishes. LOL He never used to think he liked the whole "gagging and choking on a cock" thing, or at least didn't in porn. Then a while back, he and I started taking advantage of my lack of a gag reflex and he'd start to shove my head down all the way on him and hold me there till I tapped out, and one time, I was coughing, gasping after (but happy, heh) and it drove him wild. Since then, it's been one of our favorite little things to do and I love it when he gets rough and just fucking takes my mouth and shoves me down and holds me till I start to squirm and choke, just a little. It's really hot, and I trust him not to push it too far- neither of us wants to do the gagging/barfing thing, bleh, so we work together to push the limit without going over. Fun stuff.

Pygar said...

Wow Tamar - glad you are having such fun with it. There are others who may envy your lack of a gag reflex!

Thanks for sharing

P xx