Thursday, 29 January 2009

The erotic power of submission

I wonder if many submissives understand the power they wield by the very act of their submission. It is an erotic power.

It has happened to me often when reading an email. Typically an email that has no salacious content, nothing especially expressing submission - but from a woman who I know submits to my will. I have become aroused. Hard with desire. Just from the knowledge of her submission to me.

This is not the power of one particular woman. It has happened to me innumerable times with more than one woman who has given me the privilege of being her Master.

11 comments:

selkie said...
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vanimp said...

Absolutely a two way thing. Mingled with desire the enrgy of a beautiful power exchange is something to behold. x

Pygar said...

Thank you Selkie and Vanimp. I am so pleased that you both find submission sexually arousing.

Though there are those for whom D/s is totally separate from sex. Another blog post perhaps!

xPx

TFP said...

I agree, very erotic...

Thank you.

Pygar said...

I have just removed a comment at Selkie's request. She was worried that the tone came out wrong. I hope she may have another go soon!

In the meantime apologies if my post and vanimp's make less sense!

xPx

selkie said...

thanks pygar! sometimes when one responds too quickly, it comes out wrong!

What I was trying to say is i agree completely with both you and vanillaimpaired. There is a sensual element to submission that to me is undeniable. I feel MOST sensual and sexual when I submit -there is something so elementally powerful about submitting that from the submissive's perspective, it is most empowering at the same time that ALL power is released into another's control. It is the letting go, the great release ..

vanimp said...

I think too the levels of trust that come with the D/s aspect allow us to "let go" and become more open on a deeper level and by doing so you create more of a deeper level of intimacy. Allowing someone into one's psyche on that level and allowing that power exchange to occur is as Selkie said, empowering in itself totally. x

January Blackthorne said...

I am certain you know that it also goes the other way round, too...

The erotic power of domination also hits in an exceptionally erotic way in the most mundane of conversations between us.

I wonder what this stems from, in a psychological sense? (I think I shall ask DG!!)

~J~ xoxoxo

tristanspet said...

I know on an abstract level that I hold that power, but on an emotional and erotic level it does not manifest itself. To feel power in those contexts would destroy the dynamic for me.

Tp xx

K said...

Hubby and I are a year into experimenting with these things and still only just beginning. Things have already changed, for the better. At one point he thanked me for giving him permission to explore his dominant side and told me how much he was enjoying it. I think I am much more aware of the effect my submission has on him than he is aware that I even have submissive tendencies. If things are this good already, I'm perfectly happy letting him come to that realization in his own good time.

Pygar said...

Thanks again Selkie and Vanimp - and also to TFP, January, tristanspet and K. Have I forgotten anyone????

I'm particularly taken by Vanimps discussion of creating a deeper level of intimacy. That can become so very strong and enhance desire and pleasure - as well as care and understanding.

I'm sure the psychologists would have a field day January - or be totally baffled. Let us know if you get an answer from DG!

Thanks tristanspet for the point about a sub being aware of this power. If it ever became manipulative it could destroy the whole dynamic.

I am pleased K that you are already having such fun!

xPx