Sunday, 15 March 2009

trust

I have written about trust often before - as have others in their comments. About how important it is in any relationship - but most especially in a D/s relationship.

It is so hard to build. It takes honesty and openness from both sides. Once built it is very precious. However it is also very fragile.

It just slipped from my fingers for a moment when I wasn't holding it carefully enough. It is so easy to damage. I hope it is just cracked and can be mended with care and effort. I promise to try hard to do so. I will be desolate if it is broken.

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

I wish you immense luck in trying to repair the crack. As a submissive, I know how it feels to lose trust in Master, and it took a long time to rebuild it, but we did. Good luck =)

selkie said...

Pygar, I'm sorry for this. trust indeed is fragile and not easily regained. I hope it can be cleared up and that the fragile thread repaired. Truth. I find once betrayed, it can be repaired, but break it again and it is gone I think maybe forever and for anyone.

the only thing is we are all human and mistakes DO happen.

cutesy pah said...

love can mend all things. trust is fragile, yet it takes both parties to protect it. honest apologies are the best repair I know to mend many things, including broken trust and broken hearts.

I sincerely hope your words fall upon accepting, open and loving ears. my heart goes out to you both.

Sir J said...

Pygar, I have often found the route to trust is simple honesty. Start there and I wish you all the best.

J.

Gillette said...

I would echo Sir J.

I've been pondering the nature of trust for awhile now. For me it's all about in communication, choice, responsibility, and expectation.

My wish is that you both find your way back.

moonheart said...

All the best for you and i hope all your efforts will succeed to reach the heart of your beloved one again. And hopefully the trust will return.

Sweet greetz, moonheart

Pygar said...

Thank you all for your kind and supportive words.

I think it can be mended. I just hope it has not been weakened too much by the fall.

But who knows, when properly mended it may be even stronger.

xPx

bettenoir said...

I am days late to comment but felt compelled to.

This is a truly beautiful post.

While I am sorry the need to repair the trust is there I am happy for you that you both may have had the chance to sit up and take note of how very precious what you have is together. I have every confidence that the mend tear can be stronger than than the original flesh...as scar tissue often is. I suspect though that it will be extra sensitive for a time to come.

We underwent a sort of breach of trust and having faced it down boldly together we are all the stronger for it. Very, very strong!

Good luck, wishes for strength and prayers of openness and communication for you.

Kitten said...

"It just slipped from my fingers for a moment when I wasn't holding it carefully enough. It is so easy to damage. I hope it is just cracked and can be mended with care and effort. I promise to try hard to do so. I will be desolate if it is broken. "

... i understand completely. this brought so many emotions back to me and tears to my eyes.

Pygar said...

Have a hug ...

(((((Kitten)))))

xPx

Kitten said...

thank you!