I have just posted a new query on Uncle Agony. If you have any thoughts please do add a comment there.
It got me thinking about the emotional intensity of D/s relationships. In my own experience even online relationships can become very intense very quickly.
Rather than Doms having no feelings for their subs and an inability to love as has been suggested there, I find the opposite. There is something so very special about the act of submission. There is a great power in that precious gift such that I then feel a need to nurture and care for the sub who has given herself to me so fully. It is a huge responsibility and surely cannot be carried out properly without affection, care, trust, respect ... and yes, love.
I cannot imagine not feeling some love for a woman who gave herself to me so totally.
"But why?"
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The relationship between a dominant and a submissive is first and foremost, simply, a relationship between two people. It has all of those feelings of affection, friendship, closeness, loving and caring, in both directions, as does any other relationship . . .
I invite you to read the rest of this at What's In It For Me - and then perhaps have a look at some of the other posts. While I do not often talk specifically about a particular relationship, I think you will get a sense of how a dominant, or at least this one, lives in a relationship.
Good Luck to you.
I like to think (hope?) you are correct because my relationship with my Dom is certainly something special to me. It would be disappointing to learn I was just another grey cat...
Thanks David and Jz - I think for most of those who comment on this blog the quality of relationship is central.
Thanks too David for the link. I hope others follow it and find it as interesting as I did.
I am sure too Jz that you could never be "just another grey cat..."
xPx
Dear Pygar,
Power exchange enhances intimacy for me. If it didn't it would feel like abuse, I think.
Maryann
Thank you Maryann.
Yes that close line between such sensual, perhaps sado-masochistic intimacy and abuse ... it is the love, repect and trust that makes it special and desirable.
I miss it so at the moment.
xPx
Dear Pygar,
I don't think the line between intimacy and abuse is close at all. Intimacy/love/affection, even the sado-masochistic kind, enhances a relationship. Abuse destroys it. One protects consent at all times; the other is not consensual. One brings satisfaction to both parties; the other harms both parties.
I do get your point, though, and I hope you are not long without all the intimacy, love, and affection your heart and hands can hold.
Maryann
Thank you Maryann. I do understand you. Thank you also for your kind wishes.
xPx
As a Dom i totally agree with the concept...that the act of a sub giving herself to me is the most emotional and loving thing i know.
I find it frustrating to know and play with a sub who cannot return emotional closeness...there are a lot who enjoy the act but not the emotional tie.... unrequited love Ds style
Thank you Ron.
I too have come across subs who have been unable to form the emotional tie. So often it is expected perhaps as the other way round. Mmmm - something for me to think about.
- P
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