I hadn't planned to write any more about this. However I just wanted to discuss the really interesting comments that were made to my last post, "
what makes you cry?"
First - many thanks to
themonkeysjourney,
Collared Cassaundra,
nbs,
Hisprecious slave.
Monica,
Jen,
LizLeia, and
original_me, They have written very personal accounts of what makes them cry that are very distinct. Each is fascinating in its own way. (Though
girl with red nipples is receiving regular spankings for her comment. "
Mushy Dom" indeed!!! Well - she is just receiving regular spankings anyway! Such fun.)
It was interesting to read how the ability to shed tears could change over time - or how different types of tears might be shed at different parts of one's life.
Such a variety of things caused tears - overwhelming feelings, gratitude, vulnerability, the hardness of life, the past, sadness and happiness, pain, internal conflict, movies and other media, love, failure, fear, trauma, gratitude, cruelty to and the suffering of others and animals, failing others, incomprehension, inability to deal with emotions, loss and grief, praise and affection, stories and so much more
Some talked of shedding tears for others rather than for themselves.
Crying could be satisfying, cathartic, with feelings of release and exhaustion There was even the possibility of addiction to tears
Though for another crying invoked feelings of a mixture of "failure and fear"
Trust in a Master often provided the safety of a good relationship in which tears could be shed.
One though talked very honestly of using crying as a manipulative tool. The aim was to get something rather than to express something. I wonder how many others may have used tears in this way and whether it can then almost become unconscious in its use.
It was of course all far more complicated than this - so please do try to read through the originals if you have time. Many are very moving.
