There was an interesting response recently to two posts about physical and also psychological and emotional aspects of bdsm - here and here. In comments to the first post there was unanimity in emphasising the importance of the psychological and emotional aspects - that they somehow made the physical possible. In the second post though there was a strong admission of the power of the physical aspect. However, some suggested that they sometimes found "owning up" to their physical needs quite hard.
All this got me thinking about whether there is something in all of us that makes it hard to be open about our deepest needs. Might we in some way feel ashamed or guilty about them? Do we need the excuse of being made to do it or perhaps we are frightened to just open up and admit it.
Are some needs and desires just too dark or deeply hidden in our psyche for us to be open about them?
Do you have needs and desires you have never dared share? If so, why not?
Have you needs and desired you are even frightened to own up to yourself about?
Do tell. We would love to know!
(PS Pleased do also look at and contribute to the very interesting discussion about controlling or being controlled here.)
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