Thursday, 23 February 2017

is BDSM erotic?

I find it so.

I get turned on by power and control in a sensual  or sexual setting. For instance in my last post about orgasms I find controlling a sub's orgasms erotic in itself. The same with other aspects of BDSM such as bondage, spanking, etc. - especially when combined within such settings.

I wonder though if others find this almost frivolous. For them D/s may be a lifestyle choice. They get satisfaction and fulfillment from it without the need for a sexual thrill.

I am not trying to say that for me BDSM is exclusively a sexual activity. However it certainly adds to my sexual pleasure.

I do know that many submissives are also turned on through being controlled, from being in the power of another, by being spanked or held in bondage.

I wonder about my readers...

Does BDSM turn you on?

...or is it more serious than that?


2 comments:

Jz said...

I would have to say that it’s primarily a sexual thing for me. Not necessarily as in, “only during sexual play” but yes, it’s erotic, a turn-on, so even if it the erotic tension is created outside of sexy time, it’s part of what ratchets up my desire when said time rolls around.

Frivolous?
*maybe*
Selfish?
*maybe*

How it works for me?
*definitely*

Pygar said...

Yes Jz, I feel also that the eroticism inherent in BDSM is not just during sexual play but that there is something sensual about the whole nature of BDSM that heightens ones erotic and sensual awareness. Thank you for making that point.

I am pleased that it is working well for you! Have fun

P xxxx