Monday, 13 May 2013

a sense of humour

I think a sense of humour is important in all parts of our life.That includes D/s and BDSM play. Yes - I know one has to take it seriously, that is important. However there is a danger in taking anything too seriously - especially oneself. I fear that some can take themselves far too seriously in this world in a way that can lead to pomposity.

My woman has a habit of giggling at inappropriate moments. That is okay, I just spank her a little harder. That has on occasions resulted in yet more giggles. However I am very patient and spank just a little harder still. It is fun discovering how hard I need to spank to turn the giggles into yelps.

Such fun.

Do you like to have fun like this - or should it all be more serious?


24 comments:

saffy said...

there is time for "fun" but equally Master gives me time for serious learning and getting what He wants me to learn. i think that both are valued and needed in our house. ( i hope this makes sense.) Often though there is hidden learning in the "fun times"

Desireous said...

Oh yes I love to have fun, as much fun as possible. I have no need for seriousness as there is already enough of that in life!

tori said...

Absolutley agree that it needs to be fun, im a giggler too which he finds amusing.

However for sure there are times when its not appropriate, there needs to be balance i think.

Master49 said...

The fact that my pet and I have a sense of humor is a big part of our relationship. There are occasions when one just has to laugh, and thank goodness we have that ability. When the three year old knocks on the door and asks what that sound is when I am in the middle of a spanking session with her, what choice does one have to do but laugh, tell him it is the television, put him back to bed, and wait until he is fast asleep before the session continues...

nbs said...

Absolutely! A sense of humour is essential in every relationship. Sir encourages fun and has been known to crack jokes even at the most unusual moments.

I've gotten the giggles at odd times... and it hasn't been a problem .. so far!

Taking things too seriously will never be part of our time together. At least, not anytime soon.

Slave ali said...

I laugh at Master Rick all the time during scenes, he's just not overly dominate so sometimes when he tries I can't help it and then he too spanks harder.
-slave ali

Slave Kelly said...

Humor is essential. Not an option for me. I love to laugh.

Kelly :-)

Pygar said...

Thank you saffy, Desireous, tori, Master49, nbs, Slave ali and Slave Kelly. I am pleased you all have fun and have a sense of humour.

saffy did mention the serious side also - and I'm sure we all have those times when it can be very serious too. I guess it is all a matter of perspective.

I did think there might be more who mentioned the serious side. Interesting that you are all concentrating on having FUN!

P xx

sinister_ali said...

I think that in the enx we are all doing this for fun. being serious all the time is just a downer. sure we all want to serve master and be the best slave ever but nothing says you can have a little fun along the way. -slave ali

Pygar said...

I'm pleased you're having such fun slave ali!

P xx

Christy Herman said...

I have never experienced this for myself. I am still in search of a Dom but I think the way you do it sounds perfect.

AnDi WeSt said...

Humor can help defuse a nervous situation. Especially with such a nervous and anxious sub, such as myself.

Pygar said...

I think that is a really good point AnDi. If one is nervous then a Dom being over-serious could make the situation very difficult to handle for a sub - whereas adding a bit of lightness and humour could help her settle.

I hope you are finding it works for you.

P xx

AnDi said...

It does. But I am nervous by nature. So I tend to have a glass of wine or two when I know I will be dominated that evening. I hope that isn't too terrible. But he understands. He is very reassuring and knows I need to hear that. But in normal settings we play around a lot to help ease my nerves. Showing ur human side is helpful

sinister_ali said...

I am sure that the day I finally meet master J in person ill be fully of anxiety. Even after a couple warm up drinks. I don't have to drink with master Rick but I can understand your nerves andi. There is a lot of trust involved and power exchange. After a while the nerves should subside as you get more comfortable with each other but even if they don't I'm sure you can make it work as you are now.

Laura said...

I wouldn't enjoy WIITWD without the humour. Teasing, in particular is all about my wicked sense of humour and how far I might take it.

Pygar said...

Thanks AnDi, sinister_ali and Laura. I think a little nervousness adds to the impact of the situation. If there were no nerves then perhaps it would imply what was to come was not going to be very powerful.

I know alcohol can help calm nerves but I would counsel against too much reliance on it. Certainly I think more than a single glass before a serious scene would not be good - and for a very intense scene I think both participants should have a clear head.

In the end perhaps trust and the scene being set thoughtfully may be enough.

I am like you Laura in enjoying teasing. Perhaps that is the slightly wicked side of our sense of humour!

P xx

Pygar said...

I am sorry Christie - I did nor respond to your post. It was not intentional. Thanks you for your kind words and I do hope you find the Dom you seek.

P xx

Anonymous said...

sometimes I start giggling even laughing during an intense scene. It's like a knee jerk reaction. Not because I want to, it just flows out of me. Tears flowing and all.

Reality is: the stuff "we" do to each other is kinda hilarious, why wouldn't there be fun involved?

Pygar said...

Thanks Anonymous - you've almost got me giggling at the thought of it!

P xx

khakrichic said...

The secret to all fun and happiness is to take yourself less seriously. WORD. :)

Bound Emotions said...

We laugh all the time. Sure, it's sexy, intense, passionate, intimate. But it's also fun! Right? I may not laugh when my tits are being skewered. But I definitely giggle often.

Pygar said...

Tits being skewered ... OUCH!!!!

;)

I'm glad you are having fun Bound Emotions. Keep giggling!

P xx

Ahsan Afsar said...

Find best business plan from home without any work, just invest $1 and get 120% Total Profit within a week
EarningsClub.Com