in public and in private...

I wrote this ages ago when a brief email from a friend made me think of this. Though looking back at it now I'm not sure I have articulated my thoughts very well and may be confusing two things. So I hope you can make some sense of it!

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Most people have perhaps different public and private personas. To the outside world we present an image to fit with what is required by our career or social position or just how we would like to be perceived by our friends. But in private, we can be ourselves, let our hair down and PARTY!

I feel some readers of this blog have very respectable images to society around them, very different from what goes on in their home or even just in the bedroom.

This isn't just about societies demands and our response to that. We all feel more comfortable letting ourselves go with people close to us - but in public, perhaps not. This is illustrated in the comments to a previous post about nakedness here where Jz and Wilma are very clear they have no exhibitionist streak. In fact the opposite. However in private that may be a very different matter.

How is it that we may be prepared to be totally vulnerable and exhibitionist in private - but in any public or semi public arena it becomes a complete no-no?

There are some who are secure and proud enough to wear their kink affiliations proudly and publicly. I think this is even more the case with the younger generation for many of whom sexual boundaries those older amongst us are struggling to overcome and challenge, they have long ago tossed aside.

The one aspect that hasn't though is perhaps still that of body image. It is why some still find being naked in public as so difficult. Young people perhaps have even more problems with body image, for a number or well rehearsed reasons, than those of us slightly older who have had time to recognise and accept those bits of us that start to sag...

So how different are you in public and in private? What would it take to give you the confidence to express yourself honestly in this regard in public?

BDSM and trauma...

In response to a previous post of mine bdsm helping resolve previous abuse there were two very contrasting and very interesting anonymous comments. One of those respondents has written a more detailed guest post about it on Girl on the net's blog. You can read the post here.

Do go there to have a read. I am sure you will find it very interesting. As I find that most but not all of the submissives who comment on here are women it is also really good to have a male perspective.

International Women's Day...

... must be nearly over now (sneaks a quick look at watch.)

If I'm not too late then just a heads up to that and any events that may be taking place near you.

I'm in awe of all you powerful and strong female submissives - and also of such impressive and striking dominatrices who control and subdue supposedly powerful men.

We men are all such wimps in the end.

Embrace your strengths and power over us weak creatures.

Have fun and have a great day.

Celebrate!

:)

P xx