thank you and ...

Thank you to my readers for the really interesting and thoughtful comments to my posts. I feel quite privileged to have stimulated such responses. They are fascinating to read. It is great to have a small community developing who are interested in discussing these issues together and prepared to be so open about their own feelings and desires.

Again - thank you.

Forgive me though if I desert you again briefly. I am taking a break for a couple of weeks and will not be able to post or comment. I promise I will be back soon.

In fact I have in mind a post about feminism - so get your thinking caps on.

Best wishes to you all

xPx

desire

I don't want a sub to consent to being flogged.

I want her to desire it.

I want her to desire it from me.

consent

In discussions of bdsm the point is always made strongly that it is fine as long as the activities are between "consenting adults".

I am coming to the view though that "consent" is not enough - it should be "desire".

communication

I have talked before about communication. I now believe that it can be harder than I had thought.

I have had difficulties in this area. What I think I failed to realise was that to communicate to her Master a difficulty with his instructions was to the sub tantamount to admitting failure - in effect to admit she was a bad sub who could not submit fully to her Master's desires.

I think this is all the more difficult with long distance relationships - most especially in their early stages. Face to face a Master has some chance of recognising a sub's difficulties and responding appropriately. From afar it can be so hard.

If I'm not here ...

... it isn't that I am ignoring you dear reader. I have only occasional internet access at the moment.

If my posting is very sparse then do have a look at some of the discussions in comments to posts below and feel free to join in. I promise I will at least be reading them.