Tuesday, 4 August 2020

where to find me...

I initially mistyped "find" as "fond". That put the word "fondle" into my mind. Much as I would like to, I am afraid I cannot let you know at the moment "where to fondle me...", much as I would like to.


But if you want to find me then I have recently started to put a few photographs on Instagram. You can find them here.

I do not have time to post here regularly at the moment so apologies. If 'Uncle Agony' gets any new emails though then I will attempt to reply to them and share the discussion if appropriate.

Saturday, 4 April 2020

100 days of solitude

One of my favourite authors is Gabriel García Márquez. and my favourite novels of his are Love in the Time of Cholera and 100 Years of Solitude. They are both titles that lend themselves to our current situation.

I hope we don't have 100 years of solitude! Even 100 days will be bad if it comes to that.

I wonder how submissives and dominants are managing if they are necessarily separated. How successfully can a D/s relationship survive at a distance?

Clearly it is very different from a real time D/s or relationship with face to face (or other bodily parts!) personal contact. However many do have virtual or long distance relationships.

Some years ago I had a number of very successful and fulfilling online D/s and BDSM relationships. They were very real and very meaningful for me and I believe for my partners. Much of the communication was by email and messaging rather than by videoing. It was amazing how powerful this could be.

If you are trying to maintain a BDSM relationship at a distance, I hope it is working well for you. Who knows it may get even more intense through the effort in making new protocols work.

Good luck.

Thursday, 2 April 2020

Love in the time of Coronavirus 2...

I haven't done any blog browsing in ages. Then this morning I clicked at random at a couple of links. I found myself on Oatmeal Girls' blog Submission and Metaphore.

It seems her Demon Muse is having "a hard time staying away" from her. So she was told to "send him a little sex" that evening. You can see the result on her blog here.

I hope it gave him pleasure. It did me - and I hope you too.

I wonder if you too are having a hard time being away from your partner at this time and how you may be resolving it?

Tuesday, 31 March 2020

Love in the time of Coronavirus...

Fetish to the rescue!

The medical fetish firm MedFetUK has donated their entire stock of disposable scrubs to an NHS hospital.

It seems they had enquiries from a number of NHS hospitals who were desperate to find sources of supply. You can read the full story on their Twitter thread here.

Monday, 30 March 2020

BDSM, sex, sluttishness, submission, fetish, domination, bondage, beating and...


Well I hope the title got your attention.


I am sorry not to have been around for a while. I am well. I hope that you and your nearest and dearest are too. Stay safe and keep others safe. There is a lot of information and advice out there. Some of it is good advice some is bad and some is even mischievous. I have no particular expertise in this area so will not offer my own advice to add to the jumble. Instead I am going to shamelessly pinch from Fetlife part of a short post they have written there with some excellent links. If you would like to read the whole post it is here.

If you've been following the news recently you've probably heard of the Coronavirus or COVID-19. And, depending on where you live, there might already be recommendations or regulations in place to combat the spread of COVID-19 where you live.

In the news, across the internet, and on FetLife... many people are telling others what they should and shouldn't be doing. Instead of telling people what to do, which we find very seldom works, we wanted to share with you links that we've found useful so that you can make informed decisions for you and your loved ones.

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Real-Time Dashboards

By the Numbers

United States



Other Useful Resources

For those who are missing school or have kids that are missing school:

Khan Academy - Classes For Children and Teens
450 Ivy League Courses

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But most importantly of course (this bits from me!)...