Tuesday, 28 August 2012


Katastrophe asked in a comment here about switching - where one may move between sub and Dom roles in a relationship or between relationships.

For some it can enhance a relationship - twice the fun! I suppose too that if one can take both roles then one can appreciate better what it is like for the other and empathise with ones partner. While I think that empathy is good and that a Dom should try to have a good understanding of what it is like for their partner I'm afraid I find the idea of submission for myself very difficult. Perhaps I do not have the courage!

I know some who have different roles with different partners. Two women I know will sub to men but will only act in a dominant role with other women.

Do readers have direct eperience of switching? What is it like for you?

Wednesday, 22 August 2012


I wanted to celebrate someone very special to me but then thought it might not sit so well on the "Kind Dom" site so I have published it on my Beau blog here.

Thursday, 16 August 2012


J wrote to me saying her new Dom appeared indifferent towards her. The full exchange is here on the Uncle Agony blog.

Please add comments there if you have thoughts or can offer support.

Friday, 10 August 2012


In a comment below Word  said that "Trust, understanding and acceptance" were key issues for her. I have written about trust many times I am sure as I agree it is so important. I agree too that understanding is important and like trust it may take some time to grow.

I had not thought though about acceptance.

It is a submissive act I suppose. Or rather than a submissive act, perhaps it is part of the whole nature of submission. Does submission imply acceptance? An acceptance that someone else has control, will make the decisions and do to you whatever he wishes. As such is it just an essential part of submission or is it something else alongside it? Something for a submissive person to strive to achieve?

I can imagine that notion of acceptance being something difficult to strive for but perhaps very worthwhile and fulfilling when achieved.

Do readers have their own experience and knowledge of acceptance? Is it something different from what I have described?