Monday, 24 December 2012

Seasonal Greetings

I am afraid life is very hectic at the momentbut normal service will be resumed as soon as possible.

In the meantime I would like to wish the compliments of the season to all my readers. Wishing peace and joy to you all.

Beau will no doubt be publishing something slightly more salacious!

Monday, 10 December 2012

a final post on tears

I hadn't planned to write any more about this. However I just wanted to discuss the really interesting comments that were made to my last post, "what makes you cry?"

First - many thanks to themonkeysjourney, Collared Cassaundra, nbsHisprecious slave. Monica, Jen, LizLeia, and  original_me, They have written very personal accounts of what makes them cry that are very distinct. Each is fascinating in its own way. (Though girl with red nipples is receiving regular spankings for her comment. "Mushy Dom" indeed!!! Well - she is just receiving regular spankings anyway! Such fun.)

It was interesting to read how the ability to shed tears could change over time - or how different types of tears might be shed at different parts of one's life.

Such a variety of things caused tears - overwhelming feelings, gratitude, vulnerability, the hardness of life, the past, sadness and happiness, pain, internal conflict, movies and other media, love, failure, fear, trauma, gratitude, cruelty to and the suffering of others and animals, failing others, incomprehension, inability to deal with emotions, loss and grief, praise and affection, stories and so much more

Some talked of shedding tears for others rather than for themselves.

Crying could be satisfying, cathartic, with feelings of release and exhaustion  There was even the possibility of addiction to tears

Though for another crying invoked feelings of a mixture of "failure and fear" 

Trust in a Master often provided the safety of a good relationship in which tears could be shed.

One though talked very honestly of using crying as a manipulative tool. The aim was to get something rather than to express something. I wonder how many others may have used tears in this way and whether it can then almost become unconscious in its use.

It was of course all far more complicated than this - so please do try to read through the originals if you have time. Many are very moving.

Wednesday, 5 December 2012

what makes you cry?

We have talked a lot about tears - but what makes you cry?

Is it physical things? Humiliating things? Hurtful things? Criticism? Lack of power and influence? Failure? Relationship problems?

A friend once said she could not cry for herself. She would cry for others. She would shed tears at the thought of the suffering of those she would never meet. But she could not cry for herself and her own suffering, past and present. She wanted to cry because there was such intense hurt deep inside her. She asked me to beat her to tears. I knew though that I was not strong enough and did not attempt it. In the end though I saw her shed a tear through my kindness. Kindness can be very powerful.

It is something that often can bring me to tears - the kindness of strangers.

So what brings tears to your eyes?