Tuesday, 26 April 2011

introducing your submissive needs to your husband

I know a number of subs who have tried to introduce their submissive needs to their husband but who have met with incomprehension or hostility. I occasionally get emails from subs who ask for advice on how to raise their needs with their husband in the hope that he will discover his Dom side and try to meet these needs. Sadly it does not always work out so well. Many husbands find it difficult to overcome their understandable desire to care for and respect their wife and find D/s and BDSM activities an anathema.

I have had two such emails recently. I have published the first on Uncle Agony here. I will publish the other in a few days. If you have similar experiences or some suggestions it would be great to read your comments over there.


Malcolm said...

There's whole lot on the web about this, e.g on the takeninhand.com site; but I don't recall a single article on "How to introduce your dominant needs to your wife"!!! That's what I should liike to read.

Pygar said...

Thank you Malcolm for the link to takeninhand.com. I will link to it from the Uncle Agony site.

"but I don't recall a single article on "How to introduce your dominant needs to your wife"!!! That's what I should like to read."

So how about I publish this on Uncle Agony? What do you think?

- P

Anonymous said...


I had read your blog several months ago and found it again today.

I like A Kind Dom!

P.S. I'm new to blogging and have a blog about being submissive to my husband(Daddy). If you're interested please follow my blog.


Anonymous said...

It isn't easy trying to show your husband that it's ok for him to do these things. We are working our way there...slowly.

I think this is the key. In the past I have tried to push him too quickly into this without letting him explore if for himself. Things are starting off mild with just hints of control and hopefully it will grow.

We are only young and it will take time. I am just happy we are on our way.

Feel free to take a look at my blog to see how we are getting on!

Minxy x

PS. kind Doms are the best!

Pygar said...

Thank you very much Kitty and Minxy. I am pleased that kind Doms are in favour!

- P xx