apologies ...

... for not posting so regularly recently. My real life adventures seem to have got in the way.

Apologies especially to Naughty Lizard who wrote to Uncle Agony a couple of weeks ago and I have still not published her email there. I promise to do so next week.

It seems almost yesterday that I was celebrating having 100 followers to the blog. I see that as of today I am only one short of 300. So thank you very much to all of you who do follow and read the posts here. I hope it will encourage me to try to write more regularly again.

In the meantime do enjoy this weekend. For those of you eating chocolate, Beau has found something nice for you to suck on here.

learning

Learning is good and we are never too old to learn. We should also always remember, however knowledgeable and experienced we may claim to be, that there are always different ways of looking at things, new perspectives, new challenges to be overcome.

I am finding learning in a new relationship to be fun and invigorating. It is also good to see her learning and to be part of that.

She has a lot to learn ...

... now where is my cane?!

Forgive me - I am joking. The cane does not come out for punishment but for fun. However that can be learning too ...

new

I have received a couple of emails recently from people new to BDSM and D/s. They are looking for advice and it can be very hard to give.

I know I have had relationships, online and in real life with subs searching for an understanding of the feelings they struggle to explore. Within such a relationship it is possible to provide support and guidance within the framework of trust and friendship. However even this has occasionally had associated problems.

How then does one provide advice to a stranger? Someone eager to learn and to explore and understand their own very special feelings.

I would be interested in readers views about that question. However do also read and respond to Alex on Uncle Agony here.

she is my submissive woman

Yes -

she is my submissive woman.

I am fortunate and grateful.

Thank you my precious one.

woman

Such a woman.

Woman encompasses so much. She is wet for me immediately. Salaciously and sluttishly ready for my use at any time.

Her cunt is my cunt. Owned and used.

Her breast are my breasts. To play with tease and hurt.

She has a woman's desires. So much desire. Such salacious needs. Slut.

A salacious slut - all woman.

submissive

As a submissive she strives to give up that control - to allow herself to be controlled, to revel in being controlled, to delight in the freedom that control gives her.

So eager to please. To please me. Her master. To please her master.

To kneel for me. To practice different postures that might better express her submission.

To offer herself to be beaten, to accept pain, to plead for it ... to please me.

To give all of her body to me, for my use, to do with whatever I desire.

So delightfully and sensually and salaciously submissive.


To be continued ...

my

my ...

A possessive pronoun. "My."

Possession - an implication of ownership.

Property.

Mine.

Owned, possessed.

Mine ...


To be continued ...

is

is ...

She really is. This is happening.

To her and to me.

There is a truth in this. Something we both need to recognise as an actuality, a fact. We must know it.

She is.


To be continued ...

She

She ...

It truly is her. This strong woman. She is naturally controlling, domineering even with firm views and a powerful drive and energy. She is creative, imaginative, successful at what she does in a difficult area to be successful.

Yes - it is she.


To be continued ...

strength

She says she likes my strength; that she needs someone strong to control her; that nobody has been strong enough before.

Where does this strength come from?

She is a strong, controlling, powerful, imaginative and creative woman. How could I possibly be strong enough to subdue her?

It comes from her. I am using her own strength. Is it in judo where a fighter uses the power of their opponent against them? It is a bit like that perhaps but not in the physical sense - instead in a psychological and emotional way.

I have written often that a good submissive needs to be strong. I like strong women. Perhaps I would not be strong enough to control a weak one - at least I know I would not gain the same satisfaction from it.

She is controlling, but she wants to be controlled. She is strong but she wants to be subdued. She is powerful but she wants to be powerless. She is bad and she wants to be good. She is good and she wants to be bad.

I use her own desires. She wants it to work. She wants to be a bad girl. She wants to be my good girl. She has such strong desires. She is eager to please. She is eager for me to use her as a slut and develop that side of her. So I use her strength and her desire. She does not want to submit but she desires in her depths to submit to me.

She thinks of herself as a controlling, domineering bitch. But she is now my controlling, domineering bitch.

Mine.

She is my submissive woman.

the guilty Dom

A sub friend wrote recently in an email about a Dom who she met occasionally. He had guilt feelings about what they did together. There was something inside him that felt guilty about hurting her. He told her that he felt bad in doing something to her that deep down 'cannot be good for her'.

But then he showed little affection at the end of play. Was his guilt so strong that he could not show her kindness and affection? Surely that is part of the end of a session that a sub needs so that it does not become abuse.

I wonder if other Doms have had such pangs of guilt, feeling that deep down it must be harmful to the sub? Or have any subs recognised it in Doms they have played with?

New blog post ...

I had a really good blog post worked out in my head in bed last night as I was drifting off to sleep. I worked on it in my mind and got the wording carefully right.

Then I nodded off to sleep.

I woke in the night and realised I was losing the preciseness of the wording. I thought it through again until it was right and I knew I would remember it correctly.

This morning?

It has gone.

It was a really good post though. No - really it was. I can remember that. I promise.

Valentine Greetings

Wishing all my readers a very happy Valentine's Day.

If you have someone special then do something different and exciting for them today. Have fun!

more brattishness

I recently wrote a post here about brats. It gained a number of interesting comments from different perspectives. So thank you to Sky, Janeway, nancy, jennie bear, Anonymous, doug's fuck toy, Naga-bot and Mistress L for taking the time to write in response. I was away for a while and did not have time to join in with the responses so I'll add just a little more here.

There were few who wished to be regarded as "brats". Like Janesway I too am old enough to remember when it was accompanied by the word "spoled". In that situation it does rather give the impression of someone acting the princess and perhaps deserving a hard spanking! I guess that is why some do it. They are perhaps trying to goad their Master into giving them the spanking. For me in that context it just doesn't fit with the kind of relationship I would want to create. I would sooner encourage my sub to plead nicely for a spanking if she desired it so much. if she pleaded prettily enough then how could I refuse?

As nancy wrote "Bratty just doesn't seem a submissive trait." A couple of comments even suggest it shows a lack of submission and even trust.

In fact Doug's fuck toy describes how when being bratty in the earlier stage of their relationship it was her "cute" way of showing she hadn't yet developed that natural trust. In time though they have got through that.

Mistress L like me felt that it could be seen as topping from the bottom and would head in the opposite direction!

I suppose though we should not take it all too seriously. As Naga-bot writes, "When I brat, it's because I'm in a playful mood and I want my Daddy to also feel that way, too. "

Yes - it is important to have fun!

Thank you

Thank you to all the well-wishers who commented so kindly on my last post. I appreciate it.

For those of you who are eager to read some more salacious detail I am publishing a series of pieces over the next week on Beau's blog. The first is here.